A little girl who finds a puzzle frustrating might ask her busy mother (or teacher) for help. The child gets one message if her mother expresses clear pleasure at the request and quite another if mommy responds with a curt 'Don't bother me - I've got important work to do.'
一个小女孩发现一个难题令人沮丧，可能会向她忙碌的母亲(或老师)求助。如果妈妈对孩子的要求表达出明显的高兴，孩子就会收到一条信息;如果妈妈简短地回答说“别打扰我，我有重要的工作要做”，孩子就会收到另一条信息。